Today, I posted quite the revealing pic of me on insta.
Though revealing is quite an exaggeration. All you can see are my abs, basically. But I’m not on a beach and I’m not wearing a swimsuit, so I guess the character of the photo is a little different from candid snapshots taken on vacation. Except, I’m not even sure.
As I said, one could probably say that my photo seems like something very private, just judging by the fact that it was taken at home and not in a public place. But in contrast to that, it’s actually quite innocent. I mean even the lingerie I’m wearing consists of much more fabric than any random bikini. And still, I really hesitated and wasn’t sure whether I should post it or not. Tbh, I still don’t know if it was a good idea.
But the more I thought about my doubts, the more I thought that I would have to post it. Just because I’m so tired of the double standard regarding male and female bodies. There are tons of accounts on insta that are dedicated to hot, bare-chested dudes. There are no less accounts that show women and their best ass-ets (couldn’t resist). But the difference is in the comments. As I mentioned in my last post, I looooove reading comment sections. And I can’t remember the last time I read any negative comment about some Abercrombie model flexing his abs. However, when I look at the comment section of a post showing a women displaying more or less the same amount of nudity, I can often find at least one that’s at least somewhat deregatory. Even, or maybe especially when it’s just emojis, you know eggplants and stuff.
Obviously, that’s neither the type of comments, nor the kind of audience I want to attract. And if I was queen of the world, I would ban those creeps to some far away planet where their skin would melt the minute they sat foot on it. But since I’m not in that position, I’m constantly second-guessing what I should and shouldn’t post on social media. Even if the content is actually harmless like my abs.
It’s not the first time that I have these thoughts. A while back, I did a bunch of boudoir photoshoots (they’re the easiest to get if you’re looking for TFP or even paid photoshoots). I was very happy with the pictures. They were very tasteful and I actually loved how I looked in them. And I’m my own worst critic, so this means a lot. However, I never dared showing them to anyone but very few people. After all, these were pictures of me in lingerie, what kind of image would that create?
In an ideal world, people would recognize these pictures as what they are: A capture of someone who feels comfortable in their body. But in our world, we have eggplant emojis. And that’s why I never really showed these photos to anyone.
But I’m sick of this BS. There are enough moments where I hate the way I look. So if there are days where I’m proud of body, I want and should be able to share that. Especially in 2018. Besides, I want women to finally feel comfortable expressing themselves in any way possible. That may or may not include corporeality. And even if I’m a big fan of aesthetics, I also know that it may not always be pretty – #tweetyourperiod – but it’s controversy and not consensus that helps you evolve. Why else would it be that in history, new forms of art were at first dismissed as dilettantism?
Btw, I’ve noticed that it’s only the people with a very low self-esteem that who will attack others, verbally or even physically. But I guess that’s a different topic which I will maybe discuss to some extent in an upcoming blogpost.
But to sum up this article, I definitely agree with Emily Ratajkowski. If someone wants to get naked, let them, Don’t be a dick about it, don’t body shame them. And don’t make assumptions about their moral standards.
2 thoughts on “When it comes to my body…”
As French writer Simone De Beauvoir once said “You said something very true the other day: that for us, nudity begins with the face”.
Its completely normal and I am in a phase to get over with the tabooness of this topic.
As a photographer, I got inspired by few of the other photographer’s work and really took some time to decide to create something like this.. previously I had few chances to create the body love pictures with great moels but I had no interest then..
One day, I gathered enough courage to discuss with my wife that I want to explore body art photography and showed her some work of my favorate photgraphers.. I was too concerned on how she would take it , but she showed interest and said she would love to see how my style of work would look like, I could see an appreciation that I opened up with her and I also felt releived.. I asked her to be my model but she is not comfortable/ready for sharing the erotic photography phase yet ( laughs.. this is funny) .. its strange but so organic about our relationship that we have been together since years, have a kid and still there is a void for filling an art work.. but i am happy and giving it a time to grow naturally.
This phrase briefly explains How I feel about this topic now Civilization: a scheme to hide nakedness.
Thanks for your blogs .. I am not a good reader but your blogs make me feel good. simplicity and honesty in your words are just amazing.. !
Thank you so much for your kind comment, and for sharing your story too!